Living with Roommates

1. Speak Up Early

If something is bothering you, talk about it. Be clear about how you feel. Don’t just “let it go” to avoid conflict—that usually makes things worse later.

Your voice matters, and so does your roommate’s. The goal isn’t to “win” an argument—it’s to find a solution that works for both of you.

2. Work Together

Good roommates cooperate. The problem isn’t solved unless both people feel okay with how it was handled. When you understand each other’s needs, it’s easier to keep small annoyances from turning into big issues.

You have the right to live how you want in your space (as long as it follows community rules)—but so does your roommate. That’s why it’s helpful to talk through your differences early on.

Avoid letting tension build up. Address small issues before they turn into bigger ones.

Remember: You don’t have to be best friends with your roommate, but mutual respect goes a long way in making your space feel like home.

Begin by getting to know each other. Share the basics and then go deeper.

Try asking or answering:

• Where’s your hometown?
• What’s your major?
• When’s your birthday?
• Favorite band or artist?
• Favorite TV show or movie?

Diving Deeper

Once you’ve covered the basics, talk about your routines and preferences. Use the prompts below to help start the conversation. One person answers while the other listens—then switch.

• I need ______ hours of sleep.
• I usually go to bed around ______.
• Having a clean room is (very / somewhat / not) important to me.
• Living away from home makes me feel ______.
• I’m most excited to ______ while living in the Village.
• Some habits I have that might be helpful for you to know are ______.
• When I’m stressed, I ______.

Once you’ve had a few conversations, talk through these common roommate topics:

• How should we split up cleaning responsibilities?
• Do you need total quiet to sleep?
• Are you okay with sharing your stuff (food, clothes, supplies, etc.)?
• How do you feel about having guests over?
• What temperature should we keep the apartment?

If you need help starting or finishing your agreement, your RA is here to support you. They can also help mediate any issues if conversations get tough.